Welcome to Sabotage to Success
- the Masterclass for determined
women to get out of their heads and
start creating more
confidence and clarity in their
life.
Today is Part 4.
Now the constant fluctuation
of our hormones impact
every single part of our life
especially the way that we define
an experience each of our days.
Regardless of having a physical
period or not, every day
of your life from puberty
until death you are going to
have a cycle of changing hormones
with symptoms that are as unique
as you are.
Now this is really one sure way
to know what your cycle looks like
to you and that is to track it.
I encourage you to start keeping a
diary and be mindful of things
such as your emotional state,
your energy levels, your sleeping
and bathroom habits, even your food
cravings.
But the reason I encourage you to
start tracking your hormones
is so that you can start to get
familiar with the ebbs and
flows of how your hormones
directly impact the quality of your
thinking.
Now in regards of your sabotaging
head-talk there are days when you're
going to feel naturally more
successful no matter the outcome.
And then there are going to be other
days when no matter what you do
you're going to feel that success is
just out of reach.
Traditionally speaking in the week
after a woman has had a period
or in the week when oestrogen levels
are on the rise you will
find that believing in the goals
and the dreams that you've set
yourself, using affirmations
and drawing inspiration from your
vision boards will feel
more easy and more effective.
And so at this time of the month we
want to embrace that.
We want to make the most of it
because every little
- every little win is a success.
But in the week before
a period is due, or when
your oestrogen and progesterone
levels decline
you will find that your headspace
is more negative.
During these few days remember
to go easy on yourself because
that inner critic is going to be
louder and more prone to
sabotaging you at this time of
the month.
Success can still happen during
this time.
It's just going to be a little bit
different.
Now given we as women are
fluid in nature, thanks to
our ever changing hormones,
it stands to reason that success
and our definition of success
should also be fluid.
Because the fact is we aren't built
to be consistent.
We are designed to fluctuate - our
energy, our thoughts and
our emotions.
This doesn't mean that that Big
Gold Dream or Desire you have
needs to change.
But the pathway and the journey
and more importantly the milestones
along the way - they may
need to be a little bit more
graceful in motion.
So I encourage you to start
exploring what success looks like
to you.
How do you currently measure
success?
Do you have the same expectations
of yourself every single day?
Or can you be a little bit more
considerate of what is natural
for you as a woman?That
is to embrace the fact
that you will have highs and lows.
You will feel positive and you'll
feel negative.
You'll be energetic at times and
then at other times you'll just be
flat.
So today we're going to reinvent
the way that you create your
success.
And of course there are going to be
three steps to making this
action an easy transition.
Step 1 is to structure your
activities.
Step 2 is to simplify the plan
and then Step 3 is to set yourself
up for long term success.
So Step 1 is firstly to structure
it.
For best results, it's
more beneficial to do this
after you know what your cycle looks
like so that you can include the
right activities into the right
stage of your cycle.
But with this being said it's
all going to start with being clear
about what it is that you want to
achieve.
And what regular activities
you need to do to make
that success happen.
Because remember a dream is just
a dream unless it's acted upon.
So have a think about something
that it is you want to achieve in
your life.
And then jot down on a piece of
paper all of the activities
that you need to do to help
make that happen.
Once you've done that your goal
is to put all of those
activities into 4 categories.
The first category is reflective
in review.
The second category is dynamic
and action driven.
The third category is expressive and
social and the fourth is creative
and innovative.
And if you look at the workbook
below the video you go to say are
some examples of each of those 4
categories.
For instance when we're in
the reflective and review phase,
exercises or activities that you
might look at doing would be to
summarize your activities or to
evaluate what you've previously
done.
To plan or to dream
what it is that you're going to do next.
To consider and lay out your
next steps or simply
to brainstorm activities.
When you're in the dynamic or action
driven phase this is
when you're going to do those heavy
lifting tasks because you're
going to have more motivation.
So putting into structure, getting
your systems in place, the tasks
that at some times of the month you
would want to avoid. This is the
time of the month that you will
tackle it head on.
It's the time of the month where you
would embrace more complex
tasks because you have
a greater sense of confidence to get
that stuff done.
Now when you're in the expressive or
social face activities
might look like networking events,
conducting light communication,
writing and expressing ideas
like doing your blogs or social
media posts or
embracing team activities
because you love connecting with
people at that point in time.
And then the last category being
creative and innovative,
the activities that you would look
at doing would be considering
new ideas for the next level of
your success.
That expressive communication.
This could be where you would reach
out with existing clients or with
potential new clients with
handwritten notes.
Those solo activities that you
can just get lost in knowing you
don't need to communicate with
anyone else.
This is just about you
and most importantly at this point
in the month, this is when you
would do that self-reflecting
learning and meditating.
Once you've categorized all
of your activities, the task
is then to simplify the plans.
Overwhelm, procrastinating,
stress - they all occur
when we get caught up in this stuff
and forget about the reasons why
we want what we want and the actual
activities that are within our
control.
So something I suggest for you is
to create a weekly map.
This is a simplified version
of your calendar, that maps out the
nature of your week.
At the beginning of the week you
simply allocate the tasks that you
need to achieve them in order to
accomplish your dreams and
you bear in mind what
week of your cycle you're
in. Are you in that creative
zone or are you in the dynamic zone.
Are you in the reflective zone?
Planning your activities out
according to the zone that you're in
is going to help you to get the most
out of your week.
Once you've done that it's then
time to get into action.
Now you can see in the workbook
below that there's a grid there
placed out for you to utilize
as your weekly map and you'll see
there's not a lot of information on
it. The idea is to keep
it simple.
So start by allocating
all your non-negotiable activities.
So if you hold a J-O-B
where you are committed to certain
hours of the week, you would need to
mark that out on your map before you
do anything else because you know
that you couldn't implement any
other activities even if you wanted
to because you're already committed
elsewhere.
Once you've marked out all those non
negotiable times, simply
pick and choose the times of your
week where you want to utilize
those activities that are directly
connected to the goal you want to
achieve.
By putting it into this weekly map,
it helps you to keep
yourself accountable.
So Step 3 is to then set
yourself up for success.
Now this is another visualization
technique because we
know that whatever the mindset is
the body believes.
So we're going to paint a
picture that will help you to
support the outcome of what
you want.
So as you're doing this activity,
I want you to think about that goal.
That dream or that desire that you
want to achieve.
And when you have that goal in mind
I want you to close your eyes.
Now what I invite you to do is
float out of your body now
into the future.
Ten minutes after
you've achieved, earned
or received whatever
it is that you desire for yourself.
In that moment where you've achieved
that goal - what
are you doing and
where are you?
Are you sitting in this scenario
or are you standing?
And who are you with or are you
on your own?
I want you to see through the eyes
of that woman who has achieved
this goal.
The picture of that moment of
celebration.
And what do you see?
What are the colours that stand out
most in this scenario?
What do you hear in this moment
where you have achieved success?
What are you saying to yourself?
When you've identified all of those
things I want you to bring it back
into internal a little bit and
identify what is it that
you are feeling?
Knowing that what you wanted
to achieve you've now got.
Chances are you're feeling
satisfied.
You're feeling proud.
You're feeling excited and happy.
So when you feel all of those
emotions in that moment where you
have achieved your
goal, where
do all those emotions live.
I want you to feel it.
I want you to hear those words.
See through the eyes of that
successful woman and turn
up the intensity of everything that
you see, everything you here
and everything that you feel.
So every single cell in your
body is bursting
with this positive success.
Embrace the moment.
And then when you're ready,
I want you to float back to now,
into today's body.
And open your eyes.
Now when you think about achieving
that goal, that dream or that desire
that you've set yourself,
how do you feel about it now?
What are you most excited about
doing now?
So over the past four days
we've explored some very effective
strategies to help you to identify
and address some of the sabotaging
head-talk that keeps negatively
impacting your life.
The most important
part of everything I've shared with
you is identifying the underlying
emotional charge that plays
a part of every story, memory
or experience that you continue to
have.
Because as a female the
emotion is the key.
The story that you keep telling
yourself is just the framework
that strengthens that emotion.
Of course the balloon strategy from
Day 2 is something that you can
use at any time of day
or night, when you feel any
negative emotion that is blinding
you from your life.
And I encourage you to use
it every single time something gets
in your way from living your best
experience.
But this is just one
of the many strategies that can be
used to address many different
situations that life is going to
throw at you.
So the last four days have
represented just the beginning
of what I hope will be a rewarding
and empowering journey for
you.
I want to thank you so much for your
time over the past 4 days.
You've just started to recognize
the truth of your head-talk
and you've started to learn how to
release the charge that drives
your head-talk.
Now hopefully you're also starting
to replace the negative message
into one that better serves you.
And today you've started
to redefine how you can create
success so that it's more effortless
so that it works with your
natural flow.
This may be the first step for
you.
The information you heard may have
been a refresher.
It might be new information or it
might be just something you needed
to hear again.
Either way you've invested your
time and energy in addressing
some of your sabotaging habits.
So be proud of any of the progress
that you've made over these past
four days.
And I encourage you to continue
to invest your time
in you.
Because whatever you want to achieve
in your life has to start
from you prioritizing
you and your well-being.
Thank you so much.
Best of luck with all of your
success and I hope I can connect
with you again soon.